Lingerie and sexiness

woman in a red babydoll lingerie lying on her back on a bed
Model Chrystal Loya shows how lingerie can be sexy.

When considering what to wear for boudoir photos, an obvious choice is lingerie. In this post, we will look at lingerie and sexiness.

As mentioned in a prior post, showing something that is not normally seen can be sexy. Since lingerie is clothing not normally seen, showing it can be sexy.

a woman wearing a red bra showing sexiness and lingerie
Model and performer Ashli Mayo provides yet another illustration of lingerie and sexiness.
A whole industry exists equating lingerie with sexiness. Think about brands like Victoria’s Secret, Venus lingerie, Fredrick’s of Hollywood, as a few simple examples. Looking at the comments on lingerie for sale at Amazon, you see comments about how meeting a partner wearing sexy lingerie “works”. For example, look at some of the reviews on this page. One says, “I tried it on and my man was like DAMN GIRL, LETS DO THIS.” You can find example reviews like this on most of the lingerie that they sell.

woman showing lingerie and sexiness
Model Gisele Serna shows how a bit of see-through enhances the sexiness of lingerie
Some lingerie is also somewhat see-through, which can provide a hint of what is underneath. This example is one more showing what is normally seen. The combination of the two can be devastatingly sexy.

One more important part of lingerie and sexiness is that what you wear can affect how you feel about yourself. When you feel you are beautiful and sexy, you are. Knowing that you are wearing something alluring can set your mental attitude to “sexy”, and this shows in the resulting images.

To summarize this blog post, lingerie is usually sexy because it reveals something not shown to the world. This expression of intimacy through uncovering is effective both mentally for you and visually to the viewer of the photos. If you want to show how sexy you are, contact me to book a boudoir session today.

Posture and sexiness: good posture is sexy

It is quite possible that a parent (my mother, in my case) spent a lot of time as you were growing up to get you to have good posture, and avoid slouching.  Well, your mom or dad was right.  Besides any other health benefits of good posture, you look more confident, more slender, and sexier when you have good posture.  Let’s look more into posture and sexiness.

Examples of poor and good posture

Compare these two photos of beautiful AzariaZia:

a sexy woman with rounded shoulders
Even though she is beautiful, her posture means she is not as atrractive as she could be. Poor posture also makes her look heavier than she really is.

sexy woman with good posture.
Bringing her shoulders back makes a real difference in her appearance. Notice also the curve of her back, and she looks more slender.

In the first photo, her shoulders are rounded forward and her spine is not straight.  This means that she does not have a lumbar curve. This curve adds to sexiness when it is visible.  Even when it is not visible, the effects of having a good curve in the lower part of the spine show up in much of the rest of the body, and it’s all good.  You can see the curve showing up in the second photo.

Having her shoulders and spine rounded in the first photo means that her chest is concave.   For a woman, this hides the breasts and makes them look like they are sagging.  For a man, a broad chest is sexy, not a caved-in one. Again, this is fixed in the second photo.

Supporting data about posture being sexy

I am not the only one who things good posture is sexy. For example, Don R. Osborn said that “posture was comparable to body build in influencing attractiveness” (in Beauty is as Beauty Does?: Makeup and Posture Effects on Physical Attractiveness Judgments, in Journal of Applied Social Psychology 26: 31–51. doi: 10.1111/j.1559-1816.1996.tb01837.x). In other words, posture is as important as how your body is shaped in determining attractiveness.

Another person promoting posture for sexiness is Geoff Girvitz, a gym owner and fitness blogger notes “Posture is a significant indicator of youth, vitality and mental state.” (in The First Sexy Posture Article). This article has specific advice on how to improve your posture for improved sexiness. And, there are some sexy photos to back it up. You need to undo the effects of spending a lot of time sitting at a desk, so go read it (as soon as you are done here :-).

Speaking of exercises, Isaac Odim also has an article about exercises to help you improve your posture. In The Power of Posture: Easy exercises to look more confident and sexy, he provides several exercises that address specific posture problems. It’s another article worth checking out after you finish reading mine.

Finally, Health Habits notes in Physical Attraction, Sexiness and Health…The Female Edition that posture is a general indicator of good health, a trait that is attractive. After all, a healthy mate is likely to produce healthy offspring.

What this means for photography

What you want in a photo is to have a chest that is open, both vertically as well as horizontally. Many of us in the US are unaware of our posture, and hours of sitting at a desk rarely helps. On the other hand, yoga, many (all?) types of dance, and other activities that require that you be mindful of your body help improve your posture. When I was doing at least 30 minutes of yoga a day, a photographer friend commented that my posture was the best he had seen.

When I am photographing someone, I work to be aware of the subject’s posture. This was the case for these two photos—I noticed the problem and she immediately corrected it in the next photo. When I was processing the photos, the difference between the two photos was so striking that I knew it had to be a blog post.

What is Sexy: A connection with the viewer

Remembering the definition of “sexy”, sexy photos cause arousal and imply the (fantasy) that sex is possible or maybe even imminent. This means that, most times, the subject needs to have a connection with the viewer. The easiest way for this is for the subject to be looking into the camera, so there is eye contact with the viewer. For example, here is a photo of the lovely Nikkii:

sexy woman looking straight at the camera creating a connection with the viewer
The eye contact from this beautiful woman really gives a connection between her and the viewer.

However, the arousal can also come without eye contact, if the rest of the photo sets a mood or scene where sex might be occurring soon. For example, in this photo of Chelsea Christian, she is pulling on her top in a way that will expose more skin.

woman pulling on the straps of her sexy top
This photo is sexy even though she is not looking at the viewer because there is the intimacy of being on a bed and her action of pulling her clothing in a way that might make it come off or reveal more.

This connection explains why some nudes are non-sexy or far less sexy than photos showing much less skin, even though the nudes show what is not normally seen. Examples include most bodyscapes, many art models for figure studies and the resulting fine-art nudes, and ethnographic photography.

What is sexy: showing what is not normally seen (NSFW)

In my (over-)analysis of what is sexy, my next observation is that showing things that are not normally seen can be sexy. By showing something not normally shown, a certain intimacy is implied, and the sharing of it with the viewer can be quite special moment. The idea is that if you see these areas, you might be moving closer to sex, at least in the viewer’s mind, if not in reality. This is why a low-cut dress is sexier than one with a high neck, and why a short skirt is usually sexier than a floor-length one.

Examples of showing what is not normally seen

Think about underwear. Pretty much by definition, it is worn under other clothing, and hence not seen. However, a glimpse of it can be quite sexy.

Another example that really turns some people (and not others) on is tan lines (marie claire, Betty Confidential, the Frisky, Yahoo answers). Areas that are light are areas that are normally covered. Tan lines imply that the person is normally more modest than in the photo; they are something that is not normally seen. The untanned areas are a dual eye attractant—they are both light and they are an area normally unseen.

Yet another example is the area between the breasts. For example, think about a dress with a neckline that plunges to the navel. The “between-boob” area, while shown more often than some other areas, is still not something that is shown in most day-to-day life (unless you live a very interesting life or in a warmer climate that I do :-). Similarly, underboob and sideboob are much less often shown. Therefore, showing them can be quite sexy without showing nipples.

The next-to-last example is the butt. Most swimsuits cover more than “absolutely necessary”; the minimum seems to be what I have heard called, “butt floss”, where a single string goes in the butt crack and widens just enough to cover the genital area; basically, a g-string. Since this much butt is not often shown, showing it can be sexy.

Showing more implies intimacy

Finally, one of the major reasons that nudity can be sexy is that showing everything implies a great deal of intimacy. This can be an obvious prelude to arousal and (imagined) sex, concepts discussed in earlier blog entries (1, 2). One of the few times that nipples and the genital area are normally (in the US) seen is when about to engage in sex. This is what sexy photos are all about—creating the illusion that sex is possible and maybe even imminent.

Showing what is normally hidden can easily be combined with removing clothes, a subject of a prior blog post. After all, if something is coming off, whatever is underneath is showing—underwear, tan lines, or skin.

Another thing that strongly affects this topic is the culture. I live in the US, where showing breasts and the pubic area is frequently against the law, even if done in a completely non-sexual way. Whether or not I agree with this (I don’t) is immaterial. Normally, more than just pasties and a g-string are required to be out in public. What it means is that in the US, more-or-less everything in this blog post applies.

However, I was in Copenhagen a few years ago. There, people of both gender would go to the public park, remove their top and often strip down to just their briefs/panties. They would then lie down and soak up the sun. For Danes then, there is less that is “not shown”. Hopefully, someone from Europe will comment and provide more insight about what is “not shown” and how it relates to sexy.

On the other side of the covered/uncovered spectrum are cultures such as those in north Africa and southwest Asia. From several visits to south Asia, this paragraph applies there nearly as much. There, women are often covered much more. This means that people are not accustomed to seeing much skin, and any skin can be sexy, even to the point that some men claim that the sight of female skin drives them insane with desire.

Here are a few photos illustrating this concept. This first one nearly shows “too much”, but the hint at betweenboob behind her hair and the obvious underboob show that Alicia in a sexy way.
a woman's breast, covered but showing the bottom and inside area

Candace has seen some sun, but not always wearing the same clothing. Therefore, her tan line is not a sharp one. There’s also a bit of betweenboob at work to make this image sexy, as well as the implied about to show more, all of which make this a sexy image.

woman pulling her top down to reveal lighter skinon her breast
Some parts of Candace have seen more sun than other areas.

In this photo, there is both the underboob, betweenboob, as well as wearing only underwear. In other words, there is a lot shown here that is not shown in public. Of course, the fact that she’s stunningly beautiful does not hurt either.

woman with hands over her nipples wearing only panties
Showing what is not often shown helps make this a sexy photo.

What is sexy: clothes coming off

Returning to the idea of what is sexy, anything that implies that the potential of sex is getting closer is going to work well. This means that removing clothes can imply that sex is more likely to occur.

This does not mean that all photos showing clothing removal are sexy; think about preparing for a doctor’s exam or colonoscopy. In those cases, sex is (probably) not getting closer. There are always the fantasies about a hot doctor or nurse, but that is a subject for another blog entry.

One way to indicate that things are moving in the “right” direction are either a sexy look from the subject, especially with a “come hither” look or “bedroom eyes”. Another is to use a location associated with sex, such as a bedroom. Or, it could be outside with a blanket at a picnic in a secluded spot. The photo just needs to draw the viewer into the idea of sex and arousal.

Nudity is not required when removing clothing. The clothing can still cover what you do not show at the beach. The photo could show a bare shoulder as the subject removes her or his shirt. It could be the act of unfastening a bra. It could be untying a string holding clothing on. The subject could be wearing clothing that is already unfastened, but still on, for example an unbuttoned shirt. There are also photos of just the subject’s legs, with underwear around the ankles. Even if she or he is still wearing another pair of underwear in the “normal” place.

Here is a photo of beautiful AzariaZia. The combination of the robe coming off her shoulder as well as her facial expression really makes this a sexy photo.

woman with her robe slipping off of her shoulder illustrating clothes coming off
Alicia with her robe coming off

Here is another example of the same concept.

back view of a woman with her hand by her neck and her shirt lowered showing bare shoulders
A beautiful woman with her shirt off of her shoulders.

Here is another one. In this case, her bra is off and she is looking back to see if you are going to follow her. Her look has an invitation in it, making the photo sexy.

woman looking back with her bra handing over her shoulder illustrating clothes coming off
Pyrophilia without lots of clothing.

Finally, here is Chelsea Christian with her top coming off.
woman pulling her top down between her breasts

All people appearing in these photos have signed a written release allowing me to use the photos.

If you are interested in having sexy photos taken, check out my sexy photo web gallery and then contact me. I travel a lot, so you do not need to be in Albuquerque.