When considering what to wear for boudoir photos, an obvious choice is lingerie. In this post, we will look at lingerie and sexiness.
As mentioned in a prior post, showing something that is not normally seen can be sexy. Since lingerie is clothing not normally seen, showing it can be sexy.
A whole industry exists equating lingerie with sexiness. Think about brands like Victoria’s Secret, Venus lingerie, Fredrick’s of Hollywood, as a few simple examples. Looking at the comments on lingerie for sale at Amazon, you see comments about how meeting a partner wearing sexy lingerie “works”. For example, look at some of the reviews on this page. One says, “I tried it on and my man was like DAMN GIRL, LETS DO THIS.” You can find example reviews like this on most of the lingerie that they sell.
Some lingerie is also somewhat see-through, which can provide a hint of what is underneath. This example is one more showing what is normally seen. The combination of the two can be devastatingly sexy.
One more important part of lingerie and sexiness is that what you wear can affect how you feel about yourself. When you feel you are beautiful and sexy, you are. Knowing that you are wearing something alluring can set your mental attitude to “sexy”, and this shows in the resulting images.
To summarize this blog post, lingerie is usually sexy because it reveals something not shown to the world. This expression of intimacy through uncovering is effective both mentally for you and visually to the viewer of the photos. If you want to show how sexy you are, contact me to book a boudoir session today.
Here is what happens before, during, and after a sexy or boudoir photo shoot. By reading this blog entry, you can know what to expect when you book yours.
Before the boudoir photo shoot
Several things occur before your photo session. Hopefully, you have had a good night’s sleep and plenty of liquids so you are well-hydrated. We will have sent you any paperwork you need, and you will have signed the contract. All of the batteries will have a fresh charge, and everything will have been tested to ensure it is working properly. If you are coming to one of our locations, before you arrive, my photo assistant and I will be setting up the lighting equipment, prepare props, etc.
At the beginning of the boudoir photo shoot
I will take test photos to test the lighting and ensure that the color balance of your photos will be correct. If we are working at your location, I will do these tests before we start taking photos. If we are working at one of my locations, I will have a basic lighting test done before you arrive.
When we first meet, after introductions, my assistant or I will offer you tea, coffee, or anything else that helps you feel more comfortable. We discuss the photo session, what type of photos you want, and how you intend on using them. We look at wardrobes, props and choose them for the first photos. We set up and start any music you want (from your music player). We assist you with makeup and hair preparations. If you ordered one of our better packages, you will have your hair and makeup professionally done.
Comfort and safety
Throughout the whole time, your comfort and safety are paramount. We will make sure that you are warm enough. We strive to also make sure that you are mentally comfortable. When I am photographing a woman, I always have a female photo assistant. Besides helping with lighting, poses, and props, she has your comfort as a primary responsibility.
Taking the sexy and boudoir photos
When we start taking photos, I will describe poses, sometimes even being silly and demonstrating them. We will move from pose to pose.
Frequently, I will show you the resulting photo, showing you how beautiful you look. For a given wardrobe, we will take 20–40 minutes of photos, meaning we normally go through three to six outfit changes. After one outfit, we take a break. While you change clothes, touch up your hair and makeup, we will make any changes needed to the lighting and props so they are ready for you. We then go back to work taking more photos. From a normal photo session, we will get 20–30 good photos per hour, so a two-hour session produces least 40 photos.
After the boudoir photo shoot
The photo session is all about you and showing how beautiful and sexy you are. As we do the photos, you should be feeling really energized, happy, sexy, and beautiful. A boudoir session is all about the experience and how good you feel. It is a great ego boost. It just happens that you also get great photos to preserve your beauty and sexiness.
At the end of the photo session, you will change back into your street clothes. While you are doing this, we will be packing up the lighting equipment, props, and all of the other gear. When all of us are done with these tasks, we will deal with any final paperwork and discuss the next steps. In most cases, this means talking about photo editing and when you can expect your photos and/or any other products you have purchased. Normally, you will get digital photos within two weeks. Photo products are often ready within this timeframe, but it depends on what you have ordered. You leave feeling sexy and beautiful.
In my (over-)analysis of what is sexy, my next observation is that showing things that are not normally seen can be sexy. By showing something not normally shown, a certain intimacy is implied, and the sharing of it with the viewer can be quite special moment. The idea is that if you see these areas, you might be moving closer to sex, at least in the viewer’s mind, if not in reality. This is why a low-cut dress is sexier than one with a high neck, and why a short skirt is usually sexier than a floor-length one.
Examples of showing what is not normally seen
Think about underwear. Pretty much by definition, it is worn under other clothing, and hence not seen. However, a glimpse of it can be quite sexy.
Another example that really turns some people (and not others) on is tan lines (marie claire, Betty Confidential, the Frisky, Yahoo answers). Areas that are light are areas that are normally covered. Tan lines imply that the person is normally more modest than in the photo; they are something that is not normally seen. The untanned areas are a dual eye attractant—they are both light and they are an area normally unseen.
Yet another example is the area between the breasts. For example, think about a dress with a neckline that plunges to the navel. The “between-boob” area, while shown more often than some other areas, is still not something that is shown in most day-to-day life (unless you live a very interesting life or in a warmer climate that I do :-). Similarly, underboob and sideboob are much less often shown. Therefore, showing them can be quite sexy without showing nipples.
The next-to-last example is the butt. Most swimsuits cover more than “absolutely necessary”; the minimum seems to be what I have heard called, “butt floss”, where a single string goes in the butt crack and widens just enough to cover the genital area; basically, a g-string. Since this much butt is not often shown, showing it can be sexy.
Showing more implies intimacy
Finally, one of the major reasons that nudity can be sexy is that showing everything implies a great deal of intimacy. This can be an obvious prelude to arousal and (imagined) sex, concepts discussed in earlier blog entries (1, 2). One of the few times that nipples and the genital area are normally (in the US) seen is when about to engage in sex. This is what sexy photos are all about—creating the illusion that sex is possible and maybe even imminent.
Showing what is normally hidden can easily be combined with removing clothes, a subject of a prior blog post. After all, if something is coming off, whatever is underneath is showing—underwear, tan lines, or skin.
Another thing that strongly affects this topic is the culture. I live in the US, where showing breasts and the pubic area is frequently against the law, even if done in a completely non-sexual way. Whether or not I agree with this (I don’t) is immaterial. Normally, more than just pasties and a g-string are required to be out in public. What it means is that in the US, more-or-less everything in this blog post applies.
However, I was in Copenhagen a few years ago. There, people of both gender would go to the public park, remove their top and often strip down to just their briefs/panties. They would then lie down and soak up the sun. For Danes then, there is less that is “not shown”. Hopefully, someone from Europe will comment and provide more insight about what is “not shown” and how it relates to sexy.
On the other side of the covered/uncovered spectrum are cultures such as those in north Africa and southwest Asia. From several visits to south Asia, this paragraph applies there nearly as much. There, women are often covered much more. This means that people are not accustomed to seeing much skin, and any skin can be sexy, even to the point that some men claim that the sight of female skin drives them insane with desire.
Here are a few photos illustrating this concept. This first one nearly shows “too much”, but the hint at betweenboob behind her hair and the obvious underboob show that Alicia in a sexy way.
Candace has seen some sun, but not always wearing the same clothing. Therefore, her tan line is not a sharp one. There’s also a bit of betweenboob at work to make this image sexy, as well as the implied about to show more, all of which make this a sexy image.
In this photo, there is both the underboob, betweenboob, as well as wearing only underwear. In other words, there is a lot shown here that is not shown in public. Of course, the fact that she’s stunningly beautiful does not hurt either.